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- 09-04-29 Part One Sponsorship Application Completed and Sent
- 08-11-04 Dossier in Ethiopia -- the wait begins
- 08-10-24 Dossier on its way to Ethiopia
- 08-10-23 Dossier back to Imagine
- 08-10-17 Dossier to Ottawa
- 08-10-07 Dossier (finally complete) at Imagine
- 08-09-10 Dossier (most) Sent to Imagine
- 08-09-04 Provincial Approval Received
- 08-07-08 Completed Dossier Sent to Province for Approval
- 08-06-26 HAR Signed and sent back to ABC
- 08-05-16 HAR Started
- 08-04-22 Int'l Adoption Self-Study Course Completed
- 08-04-07 Application sent to ABC
- 08-02-19 Initial Application faxed to Imagine
- 08-02-16 References Requested from Friends
May -- post in comments because I'm having issues
6 comments:
Well, here we are at the end on May. Yep. What to say? I haven't heard of a single IA referral this month. What? Not one? Yeah. That's what I'm saying.
I'm keeping on keeping on with my random assortment of life stuff. Pursuing fostering -- I'm now in the final stage of the process. I had a chat with an unnamed member of my family the other day and there is not so much support for me doing this. And while I have given more thought to things like the ages of children I would accept, I just am not willing to walk away from fostering completely. I can't when I know such a need exists. It goes against my heart. And we all have our gifts and talents to use. I have the gift of a huge heart and love of parenting. I do. I LOVE being a mam. Even before I had my boy, I had a mommish role at a group home for children. And I really enjoyed it. How can I have this heart and not use it? I can't.
However, this doesn't make me stagnant in other parts ofmy life that are in direct conflict with fostering. Namely I am still applying for teaching jobs in other towns. I don't think there is a hope in hell of getting on with Edmonton Public, but I did find a posting for a job close to town in a behavior class at the jr high level that I may (God willing) be able to get my claws into. I'm hoping.
What else? My child has apparently no grasp of the real world. Check out these recent conversations:
Jonah's going on about a movie, trying to describe it to me. I have no idea, so I ask:
M: Well was it a movie with real people or was it a cartoon?
J: Huh?
M: Well were the people drawn, like Russell on "Up" or were they like the people on "Annie"?
J: Ohhhhhh! Riiiiiiight. Because Russell is an Actor!
M: (jaw drops open)
And then a couple of days ago:
J: Mam? When I was a dog, did you rub my belly?
M: Uh-huh. Wait. What???
First of all, I hear you on the tough decisions (and I totally support fostering - but it must be hard to hear others close to you express that they don't want you to do it)...and I get why you would also be pursuing "contradictory" options...we're kind of in the same boat, but having been in this process for a while now, I am realizing I can't just bank on one scenario...And your little guy's comments and questions...adorable!
I love the conversations :)
It is really hard to be living life when it feels like someone has their finger on the pause button and yet we have a clear plan for what we want and when we want it. Then add family or friends who introduce their own values and stuff when we may already be feeling a bit vulnerable...not easy. I hope you are soon blogging about how doors just keep opening- fingers crossed for you!
Melissa, thank you so much for your encouragement. I'm posting this on your blog b/c although I posted it after your comment on my blog I'm not sure if you'll see it. :)
The comment shocked me to no end and after a very long, hard day I ended up in tears over dinner and a bath. I'm just exhausted right now and I am a very sensitive person who is always trying to be nice to others so when someone isn't nice to be I take it very personally.
But I also had to stand up for myself b/c I am trying to instill this in my daughter and have to be a role model. I've never been one to speak up for myself and think it is possible to do with some thought and in a respectful way.
I have run across your blog a few times lately and keep forgetting to add it to my list. I will definitely do that and look forward to chatting with you more.
Again, thank you for taking the time to show encouragement. That's what this journey should all be about, right?
I should add that you are definitely right about remembering to be the bigger person when dealing with others who choose to treat people unkindly. I always think about this in every aspect of my life, with everyone I come across (although it can be difficult when dealing with crazy drivers, lol).
I hope that things start to progress soon and that you are surprised with a referral sooner than later. :)
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