Major Adoption-Related Events

  • 09-04-29 Part One Sponsorship Application Completed and Sent
  • 08-11-04 Dossier in Ethiopia -- the wait begins
  • 08-10-24 Dossier on its way to Ethiopia
  • 08-10-23 Dossier back to Imagine
  • 08-10-17 Dossier to Ottawa
  • 08-10-07 Dossier (finally complete) at Imagine
  • 08-09-10 Dossier (most) Sent to Imagine
  • 08-09-04 Provincial Approval Received
  • 08-07-08 Completed Dossier Sent to Province for Approval
  • 08-06-26 HAR Signed and sent back to ABC
  • 08-05-16 HAR Started
  • 08-04-22 Int'l Adoption Self-Study Course Completed
  • 08-04-07 Application sent to ABC
  • 08-02-19 Initial Application faxed to Imagine
  • 08-02-16 References Requested from Friends

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Hi. My name is Melissa, and I am an addict.

It's true. I am way too interested in reading about other people and their adoption journeys. I check in way too often to see if anyone has posted an update. I should probably take a break, but this little community, this group of one-time strangers, who have gotten to know each other through posts and emails and phone calls and (sometimes) get togethers, I just love to be a part of it.
It is true what some have said -- that these kindred spirits, these bloggers, know what it's about: adopting. We're all in it, at different stages, but it helps so much in the trials and frustrations and confusion of this complex process, to know that there is someone else out there who's been through it and survived, or is in it right now with you. That there are people keeping track of you and encouraging you along the way.
I love my family and friends and they are with me and support me and are there with a shoulder to cry on or an ear to lend. But this group -- none of which I've actually met in person, or even whose voices I've heard -- I value so much. They really do "get it" like nobody else who's not in it can.
I do believe that generally the result of technology is that people have become increasingly disconnected with one another, but I find that so many people who are recording their adoptions in online journals are raw with their emotions and very real about where they are at. Yeah, I'd rather know my fellow bloggers in person, but I am still just thankful for the parts of them I see in their writing.
So to all who are in it, thanks. For sharing where you're at, telling it like it is and encouraging me and each other along the way. I'm loving getting to know you all. Blessings to each of you and your new families.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Haha! I find you learn so much from other bloggers as well!

On a related note, I wanted to say hi and let you know that our blog has moved so that you can update/ add your link. Our Rowan Family blog is now located at http://rowanfamilytree.com

See ya there!
Nicky (& Jrock)

Barbara said...

nicely said.

Barb said...

HI Melissa. We are in Regina. Any reason to come this way??

Barb

Barb said...

Oh & I love this post!

Karen said...

I'd happily trade a few family members for a few of the blogging buddies I have "met" through the adoption journey!

Anonymous said...

>sniff< I don't get it, huh? >sob< Oh I'm so hurt! >whimper< Poor me all rejected... a caramilk bar might make me feel better...

;) said...

great post Melissa and so true. I have developed some great relationships with my blogging buddies.
Shannon

The Turgeon Expansion said...

I hear ya!! Some of my best gals, are my adoption buddies!!

Rhonda

Anonymous said...

just found your blog and it looks like we are at almost the same stage with Imagine! We are asking for a boy similar age as you are. God speed both of our documents! :) Alli

The Warren Family said...

Very well put! I have to say I feel exactly the same way!!
(-:

Shannon

PS. Karen you made me laugh with that comment. hehe