Stumped in Prayer

I recently left a message on someone's blog in response to them aching for a match. I told them I'd pray that they would see things start moving soon and that a match would come available to them. But when I sat down later to pray and I thought of them, I thought to myself, "What can I pray for here?" Because to pray for a match is, of course, to pray for a broken heart on the other side of the world. To pray even for my own someday-girl is to hope for something bad for someone else. And even for my girl. Where is the best place for kids to be? With healthy, loving bioparents who can provide and take care of them. Of course being adopted or giving a child up for adoption is painful for both biofamily and child. How can I pray for this?
You hear of people saying how nice it is that people adopt from developing countries, and provide these little ones with all sort of opportunities that they would otherwise not be afforded. But I think every adopting parent realizes that this is not why we do it. We have a lot of love in us, and really want to have a child or children. We do it because we want to have a(nother) child. I want to have another child. And I pray for my little one, growing in a belly around the world as I sit here, that she would be healthy and well cared for, and loved in there. I pray for her family that they are safe and healthy. But I can't help but feel like what I should be doing is praying for them to be able to support their family. That somehow, they would be blessed with all the great things I take for granted.
But the selfish part of me can't do it. I can't wish on this family all the blessings I have, or I will never adopt. So what do I pray? I don't know what to pray for.